Revealing myself to others is a struggle. I’m sure most people can relate to this. Starting this blog was a major step of faith for me. I feel exposed through my writing far more than any conversation I might have. Being truly known can be frightening. The fear that you may be rejected when you allow yourself to be vulnerable and allow others to see you for who you are is all too real.
However, at the core of our souls, we want to be known. We want to be seen for who we are without judgement or fear of condemnation. Why do you think there are thousands upon thousands of personality quizzes? From the more respected like Strengths Finder and MeyersBriggs to the silly Facebook quizzes that tell us what song, scripture, color, or flower we are, we desire to be known and recognized.
Several weeks ago, I came across a website with information about making progress in your goals. It contained a quiz. If you are anything like me, you’re skeptical with online quizzes. I typically have a preconceived notion on what my results will be. If it is anything I don’t agree with, I write it off as being inaccurate or just plain silly. When I initially received the results of this short quiz, I scoffed.
The result was something I inwardly wanted to be, but didn’t actually believe I was. However, as I read the description my eyes began to tear up. It hit the nail on the head. It described my situation perfectly. I was amazed that the results were so accurate for such a short quiz. I had been seen and on a rather deep level.
All too often, we look to be recognized by others. We want others to see who we are. It allows us to feel validated. However, as Christians, we must be careful who we are seeking validation from. Who are you looking to validate you?
Are you looking to your spouse, your children, your family, friends or work to validate you? Or are you looking to the Lord, the creator and savior of your soul for validation? He made us in His image. Who could possibly know and understand us better than He does? John 10:14 says, “I am the good shepherd. I know my own and my own know me.”
But so often we are like Adam and Eve hiding from God in the garden. We don’t want Him to see our sin, our nakedness. We are scared we will be judged and rejected by Him. Too many times I have heard the expression, “God would strike me dead if I went to church.” This illustrates a lack of understanding for who God truly is. Romans 8:1 states, “there is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”
Oh how incredible is His love and mercy for us! Even though I continue to sin, because imagine that I’m human, if I am in Christ there is no condemnation. He is there standing with arms open waiting to offer complete forgiveness and restoration to Him. I am learning to daily run to Him, seek His forgiveness and ask Him to help me do what pleases Him. I know I can only do that in His strength. The closer I am to Him, the more I recognize the sin in my life. However, I don’t feel condemned, He offers correction as a loving Father and I am known to the core. I trust that He is refining me.
God loves us far beyond our comprehension. Yes, sin does matter to Him. But He died for us even while we were still sinners. How incredible is that? The truth is He is the only one that can truly see us for who we are. He is the only one that can bring true validation. How powerful we become as Christians when we only seek validation from the Savior of our souls? We no longer care about what others or the world thinks of us. We no longer need their validation. It is then we are able to fully become who He created us to be. Who are you seeking to validate you?